Slight Venitlation

I dont even know where I want to begin, its so much on my mind that is pissing me off. For instance, I have a "baby father", who fits the category deadbeat to the T. Since my daughter was born ( wait let me start from the beginning, so you can understand why). I met him from an online site, we kicked it and bonded almost immediately. Things were good, then came the feelings. He told me stories about his life, his mom/dad and OTHER KIDS mothers. I felt bad for him... and yet I continued to have unprotected sex with him, thinking that I wouldnt get pregnant because he always knew when to pull out. Okay, so close to a year of us talking and unprotected sex, I ended up pregnant. So during my pregnancy all I really wanted was his company when I could get it. ( we lived in 2 different households, with different problems). So it seemed like the only time I could get him to come over was when I cooked for him. Pretty much if it wasnt for some close friends I would have been lonely. He didnt come to many appointments with me, just one where we found out I was having a girl, after that things began to fall downhill - slowly but surely. I tried to be the "perfect" girlfriend to him, I even practiced paitence, did'nt get mad, treated him to places but it was all unappreciated. Well back to my story, my daughter was born 2 months premature, she could have died ( thank almighty that she didnt); he was there but he wasnt there. And when he wasnt there, it was always a reason why he couldnt be. My daughter was hospitalized for 2 months, and once she came home, this bastard only seen her twice. The third time he had seen her was when I was with his best friend and his fiance. But here is a kick in the ass, NO ONE in his family knew about her, she was a secret and his reason was because he didnt feel like dealing with everyone (particularly his father) saying this and that. One day I got mad at that fact and decided to call his father to tell him, I know it wasnt my place but he needed to know about his FIRST granddaughter.. you know what this nigga tell me, he says he wanted to do it on his own time, bring her over ( so what the hell would be the difference in me calling and you randomly bringing her over)... he went on to tell me he is done with me; and that he dont wanna see me (because I said I would bring my child over there to see her grandfather). But what bothers me the most is him telling me that he was going to help his youngest son babymother (she got into some situation with the law) and he dont care how I feel about it.... because he never get to see his son. Now going to see his son, I understand.. but you have a freaking new born that you have the right to see.. I never once denied him that. But according to him, she has done that. After he was visiting her/their son, he started acting brand new..well that doesnt even matter. I tried meeting him half way on him seeing his daughter ..but it was endless excuses.. I dont have no money, I dont like your mom...ect ect.. But can buy weed and cigarettes and pay your phone bill. WTF?!?!? He barely asks about her, just once in a blue moon he would send a text or facebook message... but Really, his daughter been home for 5 - 6months and only been seen 3x's.. really?? Recently I seen a pic(s) posted...again of him smoking weed and under another pic was a female number ( i can careless about that) but you can call this bitch but not your child. Would I be wrong if I take him for child support and deny him the right to see her. I mean after all I DID try, and I was the only one trying... and I had to deal with the fact my daughter was some fucking secret.. I am beyond frustrated.. beyond pissed.